Option 1, and assume about 1 mSec delay for every foot difference between the drums and the FOH speakers (number of feet between the line between the 2 FOH speakers and the drum, not the literal distance on a straight line from the drum to the speakers).
Add an additional 1mSec (or 2) to account for the digital mixer processing delay. (And as Mike just posted, this is done on the main output).
This does help to tighten up the drum sound, but as you say, it is imperfect as the distance from each audience member to a speaker and to the drums varies depending on where they stand. Shy of using headphones, this is the reality of live sound and the laws of physics.
I never pan the drums for the same reasons others have listed.
That should be take away 1ms or 2 to account for the delay that the processing will add.
Delaying the mains to the backline can really help to tighten everything up. At least it has worked great for me. I also am careful to do the best as I can to time align the Front Fills to the house system and put in them only what will be missing in that area.