Many of the materials may not be itemized, but you've bought them, they were stored in the shed / yard / warehouse wherever, and you've installed them "somewhere".
Tot up a years worth of "stuff", and going down in annual cost order, try to apportion it to the jobs. See if anything fits. Like, I dunno, XLR connector, one doesnt cost much, but several tens of boxes do. Or even stuff from the local connectors supplier, if thats as close as you can easily get. Try to see if your recollection goes with (eg) how much wire, or if thats not itemized, big stuff, how many amplifiers or speakers were on the job. How many hours the job consumed. Whatever fits will do to start.
Throw the stuff into excel, and play a bit. In just a few hours you may be able to knock off the top bunch of stuff, and generate a rough rule that says where the stuff goes, so next time, you can estimate it into costs, rather than hide it as overheads, or worse as profit you dont actually benefit from. All broad brushstrokes stuff, probably only within 20% of reality, but at least its getting a provisional number on your experience and gut feelings.
As for you and the missus's hours - thats easy- subtract the hours you sleep from 168 hours a week
Employee timesheets can also be made to be useful, by instead of just recording total hours worked, for each employee have him apportion the working hours to job functions, like wiring, comissioning, servicing etc. It will be pure fabrication (timesheets always are, no-one actually works the productive hours that timesheets say they do), but if the proportions are right it'll be close enough to be useful, once you;'ve got some data to look at.