I also would not want use conical connectors; bolted, plated truss seems far more secure in that application.
I would disagree on this point, as the conical coupler system gives you a stronger, better connection that the other methods (pin/fork, bolt, tube) without the bending stress on the gusset plates, which gives you an overall higher load rating.
Granted, you should always check your manufacturers loading tables as there are a lot more factors than connection method that determine what a truss can hold.
Odds of someone being able to unpin the truss while it's under load anyways is slim to none, especially if it's an upright, unless the night club patrons tend to bring hammers with them (as opposed to them just
being hammered).
I think your biggest issue will be more preventing people from climbing it than anything
A good reference for trussing/rigging applications is the Prolyte Black Book;
https://www.prolyte.com/en/download-center/blackbooksI would definitely consult a qualified installer who can provide engineering specs for any structure, especially for insurance reasons