NEXO PS10s end your search... Get the controller.
What do you have to realistically budget to own a pair of these, Art? I found a used pair with controller on the 'Bay for a starting bid of 2 Grand.
My solution to the OP's problem has been E-V ZX1s, both the passive and active versions. They only have an 8" woofer, but they sound good with very minimal EQ, and they are very small (for those stupidly small stages) and light (19.5 lbs for the passive version). Brand new, they should cost somewhere south of $300. The active ones are about $450.
With the OP's console (Qu 16) he can easily get 4 or more monitor mixes, which means each musician gets less of what they don't want in their mix, and more of what they need. In my experience, the ZX1s get plenty loud and clear (as monitors), as long as you don't try to push a full mix through them. I use a pair of QSC PLX1804 amplifiers, to feed roughly 600W to each box. And so far, I haven't blown anything up!